Significant Other

It is good to remind ourselves that the Christmas season is not just one of lights and joy, but also of darkness and corruption. For those who have  endure Ritual Abuse Christmas can be triggering, depressing and painful. Those in Satanic Cults observe holidays on : 12/21, 12/24, 12/25, and 12/31. These represent, Satanic and demon revels, Da Meur, and the Grand High Climax. Don’t enter this season glibly, but fortify yourself. If you are a Significant Other to someone with DID, you will want to be patient, kind, encouraging, loving and supportive during this time. Remind your loved one gently that what they are experiencing holds no real power over them any longer. _____________________ Here are some things to consider as you arm yourself for this holiday. 1. Minimize contact with dangerous people. Hopefully, you are no longer in contact to your loved one’s abuser, but….. if you are, make sure your spouse is never alone with them. If you are at their home for Christmas,

When we talk about people who have Dissociative Identity Disorder as having “split”, it is not describing a Humpty Dumpty like experience, who broke into a million pieces, it is probably a little more like a mirror that lays broken on the ground, each piece reflecting the original, each piece shaped just a little differently. I realize that this is a simplistic view, but for our purposes, let’s go with it. When Humpty Dumpty fell and broke apart, all of his innards poured out, and there was nothing to be done. But when a mirror breaks you can bring all of the pieces back together and make one whole again. (Again, simplistic but let’s go with it) If you bring all of the pieces of a broken mirror back together, you will actually have one reflection again. It will still be cracked and the damage will still be visible but the image will be one. If you know anything about glass and mirrors, you know that to restore them back to their original state may be difficult. You may e

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is still largely misunderstood, that is why it is important that people learn to understand that DID doesn’t make a person dangerous. Movie characters with DID are often portrayed as violent homicidal people who have no control over their state of minds. The only thing these movies accomplish is to further confuse people about DID and make the producers a little richer. The reality is that DID does not increase violent behavior in a person. In fact, people with DID are no more prone to violence than people without an identity disorder. While every DID system is unique, those with violent alters tend to direct their aggression toward the inward life. This means that much of the violence is geared toward other parts on the inside. Some alters can be unkind: I am married to a wonderful lady with DID. My experience has been that while she had some abusive alters, who routinely made me the target of her pain, she was never dangerous to our

Before we get going on this topic I want to say this; Integration can be a real hot button issue in the world of dissociates. There are those who swear by it and those who utterly reject it. Even therapists line up on either side of this debate. I think that both have valid points and so I want to talk about these ideas. I would love to hear from you on this issue. As I was doing my research about this topic I was greeted with great kindness by many DID friends and loved ones. I want them to know how thankful I am for their candor and their willingness to communicate with me. A definition: “Integration” basically describes a person with DID who is going through the process of either absorbing or releasing all of their parts (alters). There are those who believe that there is a core personality, the person they were before they split and the person they are to become once they have integrated. So, Integration brings all of a persons parts back into unity with that core self.

DID and Compassion Fatigue I didn’t even know this was a thing until just recently. My wife recently confronted me, she felt that I was losing compassion toward her and others. Initially, I gave it little thought, but then I started to hear myself say things that lacked compassion. Compassion Fatigue (CF) is the result of stress caused by caring for traumatized and suffering people. CF is most commonly found in people who are providing elder care, in the nursing profession, working in child-welfare or in people working with trauma patients. The American Institute of Stress , describes this acute stress (CT) as “vicarious traumatization” because it’s caused by working with those who are suffering from the consequences of a traumatic event. The symptoms of compassion fatigue can include: ·       Loss of compassion for others ·       Loss of ability to function ·       Increased stress in general ·       Feeling traumatized ·       Irritability ·