Caring for your loved one during Christmas


It is good to remind ourselves that the Christmas season is not just one of lights and joy, but also of darkness and corruption. For those who have endure Ritual Abuse Christmas can be triggering, depressing and painful. Those in Satanic Cults observe holidays on: 12/21, 12/24, 12/25, and 12/31. These represent, Satanic and demon revels, Da Meur, and the Grand High Climax.
Don’t enter this season glibly, but fortify yourself. If you are a Significant Other to someone with DID, you will want to be patient, kind, encouraging, loving and supportive during this time. Remind your loved one gently that what they are experiencing holds no real power over them any longer.
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Here are some things to consider as you arm yourself for this holiday.
1. Minimize contact with dangerous people. Hopefully, you are no longer in contact to your loved one’s abuser, but….. if you are, make sure your spouse is never alone with them. If you are at their home for Christmas, plan another event after, so you have somewhere to go and don’t get stuck spending unlimited time with the abuser. If you have to travel to their hometown, rent a hotel room rather than staying in the abusers home. It will give you a safe place to retreat to.

2. Triggers. Be aware of triggers that may cause your loved one to switch. Between Christmas movies, songs, and other influences, triggers are everywhere. 
If you have children, you may need to work extra hard to ensure that they are as untouched by your loved one's troubles as possible, as you celebrate the positive sides of this season.
3. The Drawback home. Your loved one will begin to long to be with their family. It is the type of programming that comes from abuse. It is also the devastating feeling of loss, about not having a home, a family, a mommy, and daddy that love them. They long for that Norman Rockwell life of the past and still hold out hope that it can happen. The sad truth is that for most, it will come true.  If possible, remain far away from places, sounds, sights and smells that may trigger memories or cause dissociation. If you have been at this for a while, you will know what those are. 
4. Self-harm. Many multiples will also self-harm during this time. They are lost in some memory, programming or simply want the pain to stop. You as the significant other can help them walk through this season safely. Help them to understand that they don’t have to harm themselves, don’t get angry or frustrated, just know that they may need your care and compassion.
4. Create memories that are good and happy. Surround your loved one with stuffies, make her tea or hot cocoa. Wrap her up in a cozy blanket, soft pillows and her favorite pj’s. 
Bake some yummy cookies together, take a walk and enjoy all of the Christmas lights. If you have children, go sledding or pull out coloring books and make a day of it. Sing songs together, do whatever you can to focus on the joy and the light of the season to drown out the swirling darkness of the past. 

Closing thought.:
As we celebrate this season, it has a purpose. The lights represent the Light of the World that came to save the World. We celebrate Jesus birth, the Son of God who dies so we might have life. Satan and those who serve in Satanic Cults want to pervert this truth and keep their slaves in bondage. 
Break free, follow the light and know the joy of eternal life.


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