3 ways to love your DID spouse’s little ones

           Give them a huge teddy bear

OK, so this may sound silly or simple or both, but it actually is a great way to serve your spouse's little ones. When I asked my wife to name a way that we can love our spouse’s littles, this was the first thing she mentioned. She said it meant so much to her when I bought her a huge teddy bear. And it was big. It was something for her little parts to cuddle with, to feel safe with.

            Feed them in bed
What wife doesn’t like being served breakfast in bed. But more importantly, if you can come up with a fun breakfast and bring it to her in bed, this is a special treat. Pancakes and bacon, tuna salad, Mac and Cheese just about any kid of food they like, no matter the time of day. The joy and special feeling of being served and being allowed to eat in bed is huge.

            Have fun       
If your loved one has Dissociative Identity Disorder or PTSD, it is easy to lose sight of the fun we can have in life. Much of life seems to be centered around surviving, trying to hang in and preparing for the next big storm. We often forget how to have fun along the way.
Make it a priority to find fun things to do. Get your spouse in the car and go to the zoo, or take your family to an amusement park. Take your spouse to the pet shop and pet as many animals as possible. Get a Nerf war going or throw water at each other. Get silly, have fun and let them know that life has moments of joy. 

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