Surviving Halloween for SO’s


It’s Halloween again. You loved one has been increasingly anxious, moody and frightened.

It is that time of the year again when you can feel it. It feels like your loved one is building toward an eruption.
My advice, arm yourself and love your DID to pieces.
You need to be aware of what may be happening. If your loved one was abused ritually, then Halloween was likely one of those days. They have been feeling the arrival, like one awaits the coming of Christmas with anticipation and excitement, only with an opposite and horrendous dread.
This is time for you to be sensitive and loving but also to be taking care of yourself.
Don’t let the parts that are emerging entangle you in fruitless arguments, or endless fights. Stop and listen. Love and empathize.

Halloween will be over soon enough and the fall out will settle.
Breath, but don’t let down your guard because the Thanksgiving and Christmas are close behind. These are holidays that are packed with emotion, whether you spend them with family or not.


Stay strong, love well, take back what was stolen form your loved one.

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