Triggers, how to fight them

The term trigger has grown in popularity over the past decade. 

Initially, triggers were those things that would cause someone who had experienced some level of abuse or trauma, to be transported back to that place and to relive it as if it were in the present. 
Today, in my opinion, too many people use the word ‘trigger’ and too many use it as an excuse to behave badly. I ran across this definition on the internet. “Emotional triggers are when you feel someone is not honoring what makes you special.”  I apologize if I make anyone angry here, but this sounds like Snowflake psychology. 
People should not be able to kidnap a word and it’s meaning in this way; especially if it is something that is tied to such horrific and terrible experiences as those who suffer from DID or PTSD.
What people have to realize is that triggers, legitimate triggers, can literally transport a person back to the place of greatest suffering. There is no ‘snapping out of it’, they are literally in the midst of true trauma. 
Having said all of that, I want to offer a few thoughts on how you can fight or help someone fight those triggers.
Getting Grounded
Like with every battle, you are more effective if you are prepared. Just like a soldier does not run headlong into battle without being prepared through boot camp, you should go through a mental and emotional boot camp. This will look different for everyone, but there are some common elements that can help.
First, learn to recognize your triggers and take control of your situation. Plan your responses to triggers in advance. 
As soon as you recognize the warning signs that you are triggered you will need to act. 
One word of instruction here. I have known people who want to think they are ‘strong enough’ to manage their response to triggers. This is misplaced. These situations are neither about strength or weakness, they are about learning to survive. You cannot help that you react to triggers. Initiate your plan as quickly as possible. If you are with someone who knows your circumstance, inform them that it is happening, they may be able to help. Now:
Second, apply relaxation and breathing techniques that will help you hold on to a level of reality.
Thirdly, detach yourself from the emotions as much as you are able. Clear your mind of all thoughts. Listen to your breathing, hum a tune.
Fourth, focus on either a keyword or phrases that represent how you want to feel in this moment. This will help you to release the emotion that wants to overtake you. 
Fifth, accept the reality of the feelings and then step into power. Remind yourself that you are not a victim, you are in control. Continue repeating you safe words.
Sixth, determine what feeling you are feeling (fear, anger, confusion) and then chose a corresponding but opposite feeling to embrace. This is your source of strength. You can’t always stop feeling the present emotions, but you can choose to feel something different. Grab hold of it like your favorite teddy bear, or a dragon you want to ride into a place of rest.

If you apply these types of strategies you will ultimately find more control over your responses to triggers and may even find freedom from those things altogether, which now, try to hold you captive. 

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